mens-rights-activia:

fullmetalfisting:

khaleesi-mother-of-fandoms:

fullmetalfisting:

Some guy today mentioned he was in a band to me and I watched him get visibly uncomfortable when I didn’t ask him anything about it. He kept trying to bring the conversation around to his band and I wasn’t budging.

POWER MOVE: Complete and utter disinterest in men’s obsession with their own mediocrity

The notes of this post are like

Women: wow that’s funny I should try that when a man won’t stop talking about himself!

Men: OP you’re a bitch and an asshole and a slut

@fullmetalfisting is absolutely right lmao

men, namely straight men but hell men of all sexualities are guilty of this, really be talking about themselves and expecting women and femme-aligned ppl to be gushing about their every detail and interests but don’t even be returning the same energy, (unless they’re trying to fuck/date lmao)

It’s absolutely true, but the moment women/femmes rebel against this convention they’re “being rude” or “bitches” lmao I mean there’s more nuance involved but it really be like that a lot

Traditionally feminine ppl are expected to be support systems for men. That’s why you be seeing tweets about women taking care of their boyfriends like they’re children etc. and you’ll hear women characters on tv complain abt “he never listens to me” because a lot of men really don’t be listening to women but women are expected to do that and beyond for men.

Women/Femmes get stereotyped as talking too much when they talk about themselves, is a butt of a joke, “my wife talks too much” “my wife nags” is a common joke/convention in the media but men are allowed to bask in themselves uncritically

Idk why that’s such a hard pill to swallow for ppl. I think it’s because it’s difficult to take a hard look at yourselves etc.

Also for all the pickmes in the comments lmao please work on your critical thinking and analysis skills, just because a post talks about men clearly refers to men as a social class(which has different power, histories, and connotations involved) not individual men or your individualistic and apparently idealistic experiences with men. Like good for you that all men you know are saints but women complaining about men usually comes from a larger context lmao

captofthesswolfstar:

honeyedukes:

wolfstarismyhorcrux:

irishwolf-and-slytherinstar:

Setting Things Right

Dumbledore looked up in mild surprise as the door to his office slammed open revealing a very irate Minerva McGonagall on the other side. “Well good evening to you too Minerva, was there something I could help you with?” He greeted before returning his attention to the parchment in front of him.

“Oh, you will help alright Albus, because if you don’t I will be leaving this school.” Minerva seethed, her magic prickling through the air. “I just went and checked on Harry, he is getting pulled out of the Dursleys home tonight and you are going down to the Ministry to provide evidence that Sirius was not the Potter’s secret keeper.”

Setting his quill to the side Dumbledore gave Minerva his full attention. “We’ve talked about this before. It will be useful to have Harry safe with family, and the only way to do that is to make sure Sirius cannot step in and activate his rights as his magical guardian.”

“Those lines you fed me two years ago when we handed a baby over to the muggles won’t fly any longer, Albus!” Minerva snapped before taking a breath to calm her magic. “His loving family is keeping a three-year-old starving and in a closet barely big enough for a pair of shoes, much less a living child.”

Albus had the grace to look ashamed in the face of Minerva’s anger, but he did not change his stance. “I feared something like that may happen. From what I remember of Vernon and Petunia they were very anti-magic the one time I got to meet them. Still, there are protections he gets from being around his family that he cannot get any other way.”

Pulling a sheath of papers from inside her robes, Minerva walked over and dropped the scrolls in front of Albus. “Those are requests from Beauxbatons and Durmstrang for me to join their staff in the fall. If you don’t fix this tonight Albus then I will and it will be the last thing I do before I leave your company for good.”

“Now Minerva, I’m sure we can discuss this like adults.” Dumbledore pressed quietly.

“No Albus, I’m done talking. Either you make a Wizards Oath to fix this tonight or I’m leaving.”

Dumbledore studied the woman in front of him for a moment before nodding solemnly and picking up his wand. “I, Albus Percival Wulfric Brian Dumbledore, swear on my magic to go to the Minister tonight and start the proceedings to get Sirius freed from Azkaban so Harry can be returned to his rightful place in Sirius’ home.”

Minerva watched Albus’ magic flare around his hand before settling in a faint shimmering band around his wrist. Once that was done she nodded coldly at him, “I’m glad you made the right choice. Now I am going to collect Harry from those awful muggles and take him home to stay with me and Lucile until Sirius can come to collect him. And while I’m at it I will send Remus an owl inviting him for tea, he deserves to hear the full story before it gets out through other sources.”

“That is probably for the best.” Dumbledore sighed, taking off his glasses to rub at the bridge of his nose. “I will send an owl over once I have finished at the Ministry.”

Without another word to Albus Minerva nodded and spun on her heel to step into the fireplace, tossing a handful of floo powder in front of her as she shouted Loch Loyal Manor and disappeared.

{{part 1 of 5}}

OMG THIS IS SOOOOO GOOD, I WOULD LOVE TO SEE MORE 💕💕💕💕

PLEASE LINK TO PARTS 2-5

@honeyedukes they arent out yet, dear.

And yes, I know waiting is such sweet torture…

*pokes Dray* write faster, we need stuff.

theysaidtheseathogwartsprobably:

George Weasley: *puts salt in tea*

Luna Lovegood: *sips tea*

George Weasley:

Luna Lovegood: *finishes tea*

George Weasley: …Didn’t the tea taste bitter?

Luna Lovegood: It did…but I didn’t want to hurt your feelings, so I drank it all.

George Weasley, tearing up: Okay.

captofthesswolfstar:

thricedefied31oct81:

captofthesswolfstar:

This super dangerous advice about how to help someone who is having a panic attack is circling the internet and I am SHOOK by how wrong it is.

FOR FUCKS SAKE NO!!!!

DO NOT – I REPEAT – !!!! DO NOT !!!! TOUCH SOMEONE WHO IS HAVING A PANIC ATTACK WITHOUT THEIR PERMISSION!!

DONT TOUCH ANYONE WITHOUT PERMISSION BUT ESPECIALLY NOT SOMEONE WHO IS PANICKING!! THEY MAY BE HAVING TROUBLE BREATHING OR YOU MAY FRIGHTEN THEM MORE! DO. NOT. TOUCH!

And saying “they may resist at first but they will relax” is just….I’m having a panic attack thinking about this!!!

1. Get down to their level and try to make eye contact.

2. Speak gently to them and ask “is it alright if I touch you?”

3. If they say YES, slowly touch their shoulder, knee or hand in a gentle and non threatening manner.

4. Ask again “IS THIS OKAY”

5. instruct them to breathe. Take a breath in for 4 counts and blow out for 8.

6. Ask them questions. What day is it? What year? Ask them to look around the room and see how many circles they can find or any sort of patterns.

7. Ask them “can I hug you? Would that help?”

ASK WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP!!!

NEVER EVER EVER EVVVVEEERRRRRR HUG SOMEONE MID PANIC ATTACK WITHOUT PERMISSION HOLY SHIT BALLS

A a psychology major I can tell you this is actually how Professors taught us to approach a patient who’s having a panic attack during therapy

For clarification, they told you the way in the screen shot or the way I corrected it?

reddit-tales:

Workers, when have you said “fuck this, I quit”?

I used to work at McDonalds (I know). Opening usually involved me at the front counter with a headset on so I could do drive-through orders and handle making coffee / putting orders together / taking money at the front from the little old people that came in at the crack of dawn every morning. We would also have a manager who was there to be important and one person in the kitchen. We’re a small rural town so usually this is fine but we were on kind of a major highway so sometimes it would get busy out of nowhere.

Depending on the manager the amount of help we had would vary wildly. One morning we got super busy and I started cracking under the pressure. I’m a fantastic multi-tasker but my drive-through line was backing up since I was trying to juggle them and all the walk-in folks from my front registers and when it gets packed…well, it’s fun. I glance around trying to find my manager for help. I see him on one of our cameras – he’s outside smoking a cigarette around the side of the building. Mind you, this is like his third trip out to smoke this morning. I’m absolutely dying trying to get caught up. Customers are being passive aggressive saying they will come behind the counter and get their own coffee and stuff. I have people yelling at me in my headset from the drive through. I end up having to remove the headset just to try to get the frontline sorted. I start making progress with the front but I basically had to sacrifice the drive-through customers for two minutes.

Apparently the cars outside start yelling at my manager and interrupt his smoke break so he comes in, sees me with my headset off and goes berserk. He’s like “WHOS TAKING THE DRIVE-THRU ORDERS?” I’m in the middle of trying to get a fresh pot of coffee going so I sort of auto-respond “No one. Hang on.” as I continue to dash around behind our counter to grab a fruit & yogurt parfait for an order. He basically gets in my way and starts giving me shit. Loudly, talking to me like I’m a dog. I point to the camera and yell, loudly enough to disrupt the entire inside of the restaurant. “I’m these two registers, first window, second window, and I’m bagging. I’m like FOUR PEOPLE and you’re out behind the building not doing SHIT!”

His eyes go wide. I can tell he knows I’m holding on by my last thread. He’s sighs. And he’s like “You’re in a ton of trouble but we can talk about this later.” No. Fuck him. I’m done. I’m all riled up from random customers yelling at me. I toss him the headset. “You want to give me shit for not being able to run like four stations with no support? Run five. I’ll watch.” I remove my name badge.

He went to say something to me. I turn away, facing the one girl working in the kitchen who is watching this all play out. I remember telling her “I’m so sorry.” and then I dropped my name badge, toss my hat on the counter, grab a water cup, put on (and zip) my jacket so my uniform is covered up. I go to the drink fountain, fill my water cup, and then I go sit on the far side of the seating area and watch him go down in flames. He ends up ALSO taking off the headset and picking up the phone so he can spam call the whole workforce one by one trying to call for help. It’s like 5AM so no one is going to accept a call from their work number. About ten minutes into his struggle he ends up very loudly pleading with me to come back from behind the counter. I can’t even see him on the other side of the sea of people swarming the counter at this point.

I call back “I need a smoke first!” and I go outside.

I don’t smoke. I’ve never smoked. I drive home.

He ended up losing his job.

purge-that-urge-rhackathon:

So apparently tumblr is going through some nsfw blog purges or some shit (to maybe handle all those porn blogs? idk this is such a hellsite) and accounts are getting deleted without notice even if you’re not posting nsfw content yourself.

Apparently the tumblr app got deleted from the Apple store due to the insane amounts of porn on here (the bots… we all know its the bots they haven’t given a shit about) so in order to get back into the app store, they’re on a deleting frenzy apparently (most likely a code that’s deleting without prejudice, and hopefully in wrong, properly-marked instances, folks can appeal the delete… idk right now). LOTS of artists have lost their work.

If you reblog NSFW material- not necessarily post it yourself- you’re at risk too, so mark your blog ‘explicit’ to save from being deleted. If you’ve ever reblogged anything from your safe-for-work blog which is explicit, mark it explicit anyways (better safe than sorry i guess).

On desktop:

You need to go to your settings (click the little man icon to get to the gear icon for settings)>click each individual blog (if you have side blogs)>scroll down to Visibility> and then mark that your blog/sideblog is explicit.

On mobile iOS:

Same thing. Click the little man to be taken to whatever blog you have selected atm> select the gear icon in the upper righthand corner for Settings>Scroll down to Visibility > mark explicit.

What mine looks like:

What happens when you do this is 1) it’ll hide your blog from anyone that has safesearch on (i.e. minors/folks who don’t like explicit stuff i guess?) and 2) any outside links you have to your blog (for example, I link my tumblr page on ao3 accounts) will no longer show up if the user isn’t logged in (you’ll get that “nothing new here” static page tumblr has when you’re logged out).

—>If you link your blogs from outside platforms like I do, you might want to make a note on those platforms that users will need to be logged in to see your blog (otherwise they might think the blog is deleted/deactivated/the person moved on to elsewhere etc. and that IS going to impact the hits you get and the amount of followers)

BACK UP YOUR BLOG:

It’ll save the data as such:

• A Posts folder, with an HTML file for each post.

• A Media folder, with the media from your posts, plus any media you’ve uploaded (like in messaging). These files will be in the format you uploaded them in (JPG, GIF, PNG, MP4, and so on).
  
• A representation of your blog’s messaging conversations, in XML format.
  
• A representation of your blog’s posts, also in XML format.thats all the stuff it has

Here is this hellsite’s FAQ on exporting.

It’s really easy to do (you have to do it from desktop; can’t export to your phone or something, though I might not be correct on that) following the same steps as above. Just when you click each individual blog, scroll all the way down, and under Blocked Tumblrs you will see Export Username (the username will match whichever blog you’re exporting). You will see a “Backup Processing…” note there instead of the export thing. It’s slow, especially if you’ve been here for years, but it does its thing.

Right now it seems like super-popular artists are getting hit first (laziness of code going after the biggest hits) but please protect yourself and back up your work. Also take steps to ensure your audiences on other platforms know wtf goes on on this hellsite and that they need an account or whatever. bleh